Motherhood | The Rain

I have to settle myself sometimes, perhaps it’s a bit of anxiety. My mind carries me down a path of worry and fear and I have to remind myself in those moments to relax, to stop. Life happens; sure, we can avoid certain things if we are careful, we can plan as much as we want, but we can’t control it all. Maybe I have a hard time with that sometimes.

Motherhood brings out a lot of this in me and as my children grow bigger, I’m finding that I’m having a harder time. When they are really little, you can keep them safely wrapped up in a soft blanket, at home, fed and happy. You worry about things as a new mom, but it’s different as they get bigger. As they grow, they start feeling things out for themselves and pushing that edge. As a mother, or for me anyway, I see them climbing or whatever it is, and panic sets in. Combined with this, my children are also pushing the edge with me (especially my two and four year old), seeing how far they can go, what they can get away with —seeking out their own sense of control, I guess. The combination can get to me. It’s hard somedays. Lately, I realized that when I feel out of control, I panic. There’s a correlation I never realized about myself. Perhaps that’s why I’m also afraid of heights and do not like roller coasters. It’s interesting how life continues to teach you about yourself along the way, isn’t it?

I don’t have any “fix” for this at all, fixing it isn’t really the answer, anyway, but I think understanding myself is — what helps me cope and relax, learning when to let things go and saving that sense of panic for when there is a legitimate worry. I know that I cannot control everything, but I can be more mindful and find my calm. Balance with everything in life is the key I am realizing.

They all say motherhood is hard and it is. It can feel like a downpour at moments, but the beauty is, there is always a rainbow when the rain stops. That’s life, too. It’s a beautiful, wonderful, crazy, amazing journey, isn’t it?

Workout Wear Wish List: 13 Things I’m Eying

I’ve loved fashion since I can remember and actually went to school for fashion design + merchandising at one point. Although life took me on another path, my love for fashion and styling never went away. Since getting into fitness, I’ve definitely found a love for great, stylish and functional workout wear. I’m always on the hunt and enjoy styling my outfits for working out.

I really think what you wear when you workout makes a difference. Wearing something that, 1) is made for activity, 2) fits well and is comfortable, and 3) you love and makes you feel good, gives you that extra something for a great workout! Here is my current wish list and things I’m loving! Everything is linked, too!

1) THIS Alo Yoga wrap top in Moss. I would wear this as a cover up to/from the gym and for yoga.

2) THIS bra/crop top also from Alo Yoga in Gravel. I have it in “pristine” and love it.

3) THESE shorts from Lululemon. They are high-waisted, which I love and would be great for my longer outdoor runs. I love this chambray color.

4) THIS wanderlust bodysuit from Adidas. I would pair this with some yoga pants for yoga/inversion practice.

5) THIS graphic tank from Adidas I would really love for the gym.

6) THESE Adidas Pureboost shoes. I have them in white and they are my absolute favorite!

7) THIS Arrow tank from Alo Yoga is my absolute favorite top for working out. It’s super light and flattering. It comes in so many colors, too! I’d love one for every day of the week!

8) THESE Fast & Free tights by Lululemon are my very favorite for working out, they have great pockets and the fabric is amazing! I love them in the longer option as well.

9)THESE Align pants from Lululemon come in as a close second to the Fast & Free, I would actually love them more if they had the same pockets. They are so comfortable I wear them for both working out and lounging.

10) THIS bra from Lululemon. I have another similar style snd love it!

11) THESE Adidas shoes I have been eyeing for a while and I love them in black, too!

12) THIS tank from Carbon38 has been on my wish list for a while, it comes in many colors and I love the style/length.

13) THIS bra from Carbon38 is beautiful! I love the tan and the matching leggings. I would wear it as a monochromatic look with this sheer matching top in tan or white for a crisp look.

That’s it for now! This is not a sponsored post, I just wanted to share some things I’m currently loving for working out.

xo

Renee

5 Tips for Making it YOUR Lifestyle: Motherhood + Fitness

Setting aside time for yourself is anything but easy when you are a mom, regardless if you have one, two, or ten children, if you work or stay at home – it’s hard. Your focus is your children, your family and it can be hard to find balance, especially with little ones who physically need so much. When I was around 5 months postpartum from having my third baby, I knew I needed something, I didn’t feel like myself, there had to be a way for me to squeeze in some time for myself and I knew that exercise would help me in so many ways. I just had to figure out when I had the time. Here are some things that have worked for me:

  1. Really take a look at how your days are spent. We all have 24 hours and although we have varying responsibilities, we all get the same amount of time each day. You may have to reprioritize and that’s ok, because YOU have to be on your priority list! Do you wake up early for quiet time only to sit and scroll social media on your phone? There’s your opportunity. We all have one, we just have to scrutinize our own schedules and FIND THE TIME.
  2. Make your first goal to JUST DO IT. Yes, the Nike slogan. Stop waiting, stop thinking about it. STOP telling yourself you can’t, or there’s no time, or it’s too late, whatever you tell yourself, STOP! Pack a gym bag for afterwork or lay out your clothes and set the alarm a little earlier and just do it. Just go to the gym, just go for the run, just do it and make it a habit. My first goal was to go to the gym every single day for 2 weeks. Once I did that, I would reevaluate, but I wanted to make it a habit. Once I achieved this first goal, I extended it and I said, ok, now I will go every day for a month and that turned into 3 months and so forth. I simply made it a habit and that was my very first goal. It was small, but it was probably the most impactful goal I have set for myself. And because of that goal, over the past 2+ years, I have made countless other goals for myself and achieving them has been so motivating. Inspire yourself! Have fun with it, challenge yourself, set out to do something you’ve never done before and prove to yourself how capABLE you are!
  3. Do not focus on how much weight you want to lose, or your “goal weight”. You are where you are, don’t focus on how much you have to lose or how many sizes bigger you are, stop! You’re going to end up with negative self-talk and that leads to what? Failure. Be kind to yourself. Focus on that first goal, tell yourself you can do this and be proud of yourself for doing something. You are doing this to be and feel healthy and this means there is no end goal, you simply need to be your best self and this means it is a lifestyle, not something temporary you’re doing just to fit into those old jeans. I didn’t even take a “before” photo, because it felt like I was putting pressure on myself and that was too much to take at that point. I didn’t take any photos until about a month in when I started getting my confidence and liked the changes I was starting to notice.
  4. Do not cheat yourself! Push yourself. Only YOU know if you are pushing yourself, if you are completing all of the reps, or if you are skipping, etc. If you “cheat” at working out and take it easy all the time, it doesn’t affect anyone but you, make yourself proud of what you can do! You will not be doing yourself any favors in the long run if you really aren’t putting the work in, use that time you carved out to work hard.
  5. Pay attention to what you are eating. Yes, fitness and nutrition go hand in hand. You will not feel good if you are working out but eating unhealthily. You also will not perform as well as you could. You need to be to be healthy, inside and out. I personally believe in balance and do not believe in a restrictive diet, unless it is prescribed by a doctor or dietician. I believe it is important to pay attention and make better choices and if you have a piece of cake at your daughter’s birthday party, that is ok, don’t beat yourself up over it, or obsess about it, just make your next meal a healthy one and try to eat more healthy foods than unhealthy foods in your day. For me, I eat almost the same things every day, it makes it easier to shop and plan for and knowing what I’m going to be eating makes it easier for me to make healthier choices consistently.

I hope you found this helpful. Change can be hard, so if you haven’t consistently incorporated fitness into your life in a long time, or ever, it can definitely feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. We overthink it. It really is a matter of putting one foot in front of the other. Go for it, just do it!

xo

Renee

PS: If you need an extra push, remind yourself that life is a gift and you are only given one body and you are able. There are so many who are not able, so do it for them. Do it for your 90 year old self, one day we might not be so able. Don’t take it for granted. 

Perspective matters. Mindset is everything.

Photo May 24, 4 54 24 PM

One of my recent goals was to achieve a headstand, I worked on it for months. What a feeling it is to achieve something you work so hard for. I’m currently working on handstands and the last two months or so, I’ve been adding in a long distance run, so once a week, instead of going to the gym, I run 5 miles outside, without stopping. When I first started working out, I couldn’t run a quarter mile without stopping. I turn 35 next month and I love that I’m doing things I have never done before and am in much better physical shape than I was in my twenties and probably most of my teens.